Tag: life

using cookies to make your day better

We all occasionally have days that are meh, blah, or downright bad. That’s just part of life. But there are things we can do to make our day better. Consider this:

If you are having a bad day, have a couple cookies and I bet your day will instantly get better. ~ Chris Lowry

You might think, “Well, duh, of course a cookie makes things better.” Everyone knows that! But when you’re having a bad day, do you actually do something to make your day better? Sometimes we get so busy and/or so stressed that we just go along with it and don’t take a few minutes to improve our day. It doesn’t have to be cookies (although they are effective, as my research has proven*). It could be a text message to a friend who will likely respond with encouragement or humor. It could be listening to your favorite songs instead of whatever happens to be on the radio. It could be turning off the news. Lying down and stretching out, maybe taking a nap. Dancing, reading, writing, walking outside, brewing some sweet tea, etc. Whatever works might vary for you, but think of ways you can improve your day. And even if it’s not a bad day, why not make it a little more awesome?

* I ate cookies.

searching for the best cheeseburger

I heard someone say:

A life spent in the pursuit of the perfect cheeseburger would not be a life wasted. I wonder if the same could be said of milkshakes…

That sounds good, in a way. I’ve pursued the best cheeseburger (and found it on my own grill), and I’ve pursued the best milkshake. One time in high school, my best friend and I had driven to the nearest city, and we decided we’d try milkshakes from all the places we knew about, to see which was the best. Looking back at that now, when I understand more about calories and fat grams, I wouldn’t do it again. At least, not all in one day. I still enjoy milkshakes just as much, but my metabolism is many times slower than it was then, so it’s just not a good strategy to have them often. But in high school, I could do that and not gain any weight. (I sure miss my metabolism!)

But thinking back to that philosophy of chasing the best, it’s not always the ideal mindset. There’s nothing wrong with trying to find a better version of something, and I encourage that to a degree, but I’ve learned that chasing perfection can lead to not enjoying what you have.

You can’t always eat at the best burger joint or the best steakhouse or the best seafood restaurant, and if your mindset ends up being, “This isn’t the best” and that makes you disappointed, that’s unfortunate. Then you have a lot of meals that you aren’t enjoying because they aren’t the best.

I’ve met people who became that way, where they were never satisfied at a restaurant nor with home cooking, because it wasn’t the best it could be. I felt sad for them, because they could be eating really good food that they used to enjoy, yet be disappointed and complaining about it.

I’ve learned to try to enjoy where I am. My meals today probably won’t be the best they can possibly be (although I will try to make them good within reason), but I will still choose to enjoy them.

Your mindset makes a huge difference in how much you enjoy it. Even if the taste is the same, how you think about it — your expectations and your narrative about the experience — play a large role in how you think and feel about it. I’ve seen children talk themselves into not liking chicken strips or spaghetti or mac ‘n cheese, even if it’s the exact same kind they had the week before and really enjoyed. Adults can do that, too. What we tell ourselves matters.

So choose to enjoy today. It won’t be perfect or ideal — it never is — but enjoy it anyway. Where you are right now is your actual life, and you will not pass through this day again. You can choose to make the best of it, or you can complain about it and not enjoy it. It’s your choice. (I recommend trying to enjoy it.)

The International Day of Happiness

Happy happy day!

Today, March 20, is the International Day of Happiness. So, obviously, you should try to be happy today. 🙂

Funny conversations are usually better in-person.

Whether or not you choose to participate is up to you. We might think we want other people to make us happy, but really, they can’t, nor do you want to be dependent on other people to be happy. Or, even if we don’t expect them to, we might blame other people and circumstances when we aren’t happy. And while everything around us is an influence on our mood, the good news is that we are in control of our own happiness.

Research has shown that what happens to us makes up only about 20 percent of our happiness. The rest depends on our expectations and the narrative we tell ourselves to explain our life, both of which you can control. A full discussion on that is way beyond the scope of this post and this blog, but there is a series of blog posts on how to find happiness, if you want to learn more about it and improve your life. (It’s still a work in progress, but I know what’s coming and recommend it.)

So, what will you do today to be happy? Even if your schedule is full and you’re too busy, there’s opportunity to enjoy life where you’re at. Talk to someone who spreads humor, listen to music you enjoy, take a 5 minute dance break, go for a walk outside, relax for a few minutes when you normally wouldn’t, sit in the sun (or the shade) for a few minutes, eat a cookie, read a good book (or this blog), savor a glass of sweet tea, etc.

Remember, your happiness is up to you. So if you want to be happy, do something about it.

snow showing how old you are

We got a rare snow here in the south recently, and I remembered this quote:

The aging process has you firmly in its grasp if you never get the urge to throw a snowball.

BTW, I threw numerous snowballs, so I’m not old. 🙂

Seriously, though, while that’s a joke, take time to enjoy your life each day. Look around, notice what’s going on around you, pay attention to details you normally overlook, and find enjoyment in the good things in your life. Most people are too busy and stressed to enjoy life, which is sad.

What can you enjoy today that you normally don’t? Even if it’s just a minute or two, that’s a start. Try it…